Don’t start sentences with “At least you…”
Don’t say “At least you have other kids” or “At least you can try again.” Those phrases completely negate the life of the baby. Don’t equate the baby to a pair of tennis shoes that can be replaced. That doesn’t help them feel any better. Recognize the life that these parents lost. Telling a parent to be thankful they have other children is like saying “look at your living children, which of them would you be okay with dying,” Clark said. If someone’s grandmother died you wouldn’t say, well at least you have some grandparents left. Take a moment to realize the baby was a person.