13. You compare a lot
“It is not uncommon for daters in this age range to be coming into dating after a 20-plus year marriage,” professional dating profile writer Eric Resnick.
“Sometimes people approach dating with an eye towards what they don’t want as opposed to what they do want. Unfortunately, this negative perspective tends to just draw in the same type of people they want to avoid, while scaring off the people who would be perfect for them.”
He also says that “on the flip side, some who are widowed tend to use their departed loved one as the yardstick by which they measure future dates—but it is impossible for anyone to hold up against the love of your life. Even if they get close, the pressure of the comparison can kill a lot of fledgling relationships.”
